Minden Press-Herald

Oct 01st

Focusing on What’s Before You

Goal setting is an important part of what motivates me. So when people are declaring New Year's resolutions, I share in their happiness. I see how motivated people are about the upcoming year, the hope they have in themselves to achieve, and I know that is a wonderful feeling.

Setting goals comes naturally for me. I daydream a lot and set targets for achieving those dreams. For me, there is a feeling of euphoria when I think of what actions I can take to influence my future. The notion that I have some control over what path I take is empowering. Life with free will is truly amazing. I'm grateful for it and find that I am most happy when consciously exercising that gift.

Because that is how I think, it's no wonder I enjoy setting goals for myself.

I don't typically set New Year resolutions. However, as I thought about resolutions I found a personal flaw that I had not been aware of before and in doing so, I now have a resolution for the new year.

Because I'm often focused on what's going to happen and what's coming up, I'm often very forgetful of what is happening now.

While I really enjoy planning and crossing off my to do list, I think I sometimes get so wrapped up in what is down the road, I pass something incredible. I usually end up rubber necking and making matters worse.

For example:

I get so caught up in what I want to write about, I forget to write.

I get so caught up in financial planning, I forget to pay routine bills when they are due.

I get so lost in my own thoughts, that I shy away from conversation.

Luckily, I have a very helpful husband and understanding friends and loved ones who are accommodating to my quirks.

But relying on others to be sympathetic to my peculiar ways is not something I want to continue to do.

I am far from perfect and acknowledge I won't ever get close. I love the way I was designed – my unique mind and personality and my peculiar habits.

But being who I am isn't an excuse. Rather it is a reason.

I'm endeavoring into the new year with resolve to focus on what is in front of me, on today and in the moment.

I'm not going to be successful every day, but in acknowledging my weaknesses and setting thing in motion to accommodate those issues, I'm already a better person than I was in 2013.

Jeri Bloxom is a contributing writer and columnist to the Minden Press-Herald.






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