We are commanded to help each other as the body of Christ. We are to pray for our brothers and sisters in the Faith. We are to stand in the gap, to bear each other's burdens, to love one another. In the mafia, in gangs, in secular brotherhoods, the members have each other's backs and they are not just like brothers, they become brothers. They don't tear down each other, they take care of each other.
The world tries to model things after what the church is supposed to be. The church has tried to model itself after the world, not after the scriptures. Secular, non-Christian groups, gangs, and mafias understand taking care of their brothers and sisters better than the Christian church does. In the mafia world, if someone talks about another mafia brother and a mafia member hears it, they don't join in, they go "you better shut up about my brother before I bust a cap in your butt." In the Christian church, it seems more like "This person is so awful... Can you believe they did that?" and then they exclude the person.
I am guilty of being a little judgmental and of tearing people down. I still struggle with that. But, who would be better to talk about what we should do than someone who has done what we should not do? Or, someone who still understands the struggle to do right? Ephesians 4:29 says Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. The word edify means to build up, to strengthen, or to help. It does not mean to destroy, to tear down, or to attack.
In the Christian world, we tend to want to shoot at our wounded and get them while they are down. In the mafia world, if someone tries to get you with a knife, someone on your side will take their knife. It seems like Christians try to get you to trust them, then stab you in the back with your trust.
The tongue has the power of life and death according to Proverbs 18:21. James 3 speaks of the danger of not controlling our tongue. The tongue is called a fire, a causer of iniquity, and it is almost impossible to tame. It is only possible because I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me. (Phillipians 4:13) We are not supposed to use our tongues to tear others down, we are to help build up, or edify one another. God must control our tongue.. That is why speaking in tongues is the sign of God's Spirit and Him controlling your tongue.
It is hypocrisy to praise God, to shout, to speak in tongues, or to pretend to worship when it is only a temporary emotional hype... A temporary speaking of life, and then to go tear others down after church. James 3:10 tells us that it is wrong to have blessings and cursings out of the same mouth... What we speak is what is in our heart... If we tear others down, it is a sign that we have bitterness, wrath, anger, envy, and pride if we think we are better than others. Acts 10:24 and Romans 2:11 say that God is no respecter of persons.
We are commanded to follow peace and holiness with everyone, not bitterness. We are commanded to pray against and to kill any root of bitterness. This is in Hebrews 12:14-15. Ephesians 4:29-32 says Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.
We are not to let corrupt communication come out. We are to build our brothers and sisters up. We are commanded to put away bitterness, wrath, anger, malice, and clamour. We are commanded NOT to speak evil. It is right there in the scriptures. We are to be kind to each other. We are to be kind to everyone... We are commanded to forgive and to be tenderheated. God forgave us, so we must also forgive. God will not forgive us unless we forgive each other.
A judgmental spirit is a sign of bitterness. James 4:12 tells us we have no right to judge our neighbor. We need to realize that we really are children of One Lord and are of One Faith. Ephesians 4:1-5 says I therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you that ye walk worthy of the vocation wherewith ye are called, With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love; Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. There is one body, and one Spirit, even as ye are called in one hope of your calling; One Lord, one faith, one baptism. We are called to be meek and lowly, to be humble... To be longsuffering. We are to operate in love... 1 Corinthians 13 makes it clear that all is pointless without love. We are called to live with the fruit of the Spirit. You will die and be cursed if you don't bear fruit. We are to be unified. Discord and contention are not customs in God's church according to 1 Corinthians 11:16
James 5:16 says to Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. Galatians 6:2 says Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.
We must pray for each other. We must stand in the gap. In the book of Acts, the church was praying for Peter and his chains in prison were broken. Moses pleaded with God for Israel. Exekiel 22:30 says God is seeking one to stand in the gap. We are to pray, not pry.We are to speak to each other in psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs, and we are commanded to submit to each other in the fear of the Lord.
Again, James 5:16 says to Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.